My Wedding Anniversary

Today is my 10th wedding anniversary and I'm very thankful to God for my beautiful wife Mary.


Our Wedding at St. Mary of the Assumption in Lake Leelanau, Michigan

When I started thinking back to the many different milestones and adventures along the way, I couldn't believe it. It seemed impossible that everything happened in that amount of time. However, I also started thinking about what more I can do as a Husband and Father, or should I say NEED to do. And then it hit me.

While 10 years seems like a long time, it's nothing compared to eternity. My number one job on this earth is to love God, my wife, and children. If I do that with all my heart, strength, and courage I will have succeeded in my marriage and in leading them to Heaven.

I have a prayer that I want to share. This prayer asks for the intercession of St. Paul of the Cross, whose feast day we celebrate today. I also pray it regularly with my other daily prayers.


St. Paul of the Cross

O glorious Saint Paul of the Cross, who, by meditating on the Passion of Jesus Christ, didst attain to so high a degree of holiness on earth and of happiness in Heaven, and, by preaching the same Passion, didst offer anew to the world the most certain cure for all its ills, obtain for us the grace to keep it ever deeply engraved in our hearts, that so we may be able to reap the same fruits both in time and in eternity. Amen.

Happy Anniversary to my beautiful wife and I pray each day for the strength and courage to be the best husband and father I can be.

Photo of St. Paul of the Cross is from A Catholic Child's Illustrated Lives of the Saints by L.E. McCullough.

  • Ed Hahnenberg

    Jeremy...Congratulations on your anniversary. We need good examples of life-long marriage.

    You closed comments on intercommunion prematurely. OrganVirtuoso maligned me and my position the issue with the following un-Christlike statements:

    "You are encouraging people to sin mortally. But perhaps you don't believe in confession or hell for that matter."

    "That degree in theology you have, Mr. Hahnenberg, seems entirely useless right now if all the inanity you have posted is what you got out of it."

    What kind of Catholic does your blog attract? OrgVir is so theologically skewed to pre-Vatican thinking as to be at the heart of a growing schism in the Church.

    These are comments of his are of vitriol and ignorance. As to his comment that Pope Eugene IV made in 1441: "The Holy Roman Church firmly believes, professes and preaches that all those who are outside the Catholic Church, not only pagans but also Jews or heretics and schismatics, cannot share in eternal life and will go into the everlasting fire which was prepared for the devil and his angels, unless they are joined to the Church before the end of their lives.."

    This statement must be understood in context. This is not an infallible statement but typical for the time. It is countered by Vatican II's Lumen Gentium, Par. 16. He would do well to read it, since even sincere atheists may go to heaven according to the Council. Here is the quote:

    "Nor does Divine Providence deny the helps necessary for salvation to those who, without blame on their part, have not yet arrived at an explicit knowledge of God and with His grace strive to live a good life."

  • Ed Hahnenberg

    Jeremy...Again, on life-long Catholic sacramental marriage...my wife and I celebrated anniversary 41 this month. Hope we make 50! Mexico, I believe, is talking about a two-year license for civil marriage. Tragic.

    I got to thinking about the role of the Pope and his authority in today's church. OrgVir spoke about Pope Eugene IV speaking "ex cathedra."

    The phrase "ex cathedra" occurs in the writings of the medieval theologians, and more frequently in the discussions which arose AFTER the Reformation in regard to the papal prerogatives. But its PRESENT meaning was formally determined by the Vatican Council I, Sess. IV, Const. de Ecclesiâ Christi, c. iv:

    "We teach and define that it is a dogma Divinely revealed that the Roman pontiff when he speaks ex cathedra, that is when in discharge of the office of pastor and doctor of all Christians, by virtue of his supreme Apostolic authority, he defines a doctrine regarding faith or morals to be held by the universal Church, by the Divine assistance promised to him in Blessed Peter, is possessed of that infallibility with which the Divine Redeemer willed that his Church should be endowed in defining doctrine regarding faith or morals, and that therefore such definitions of the Roman pontiff are of themselves and not from the consent of the Church irreformable."

    So, let's not confuse the meaning of "ex cathedra" as it applies to pre-Reformation, post-Reformation papal statements, or how it was used in Vatican I to define papal infallibility. That is the difference context and understanding of church history makes.

    As to Canon law, the Pope can change it at his own discretion. There is a change coming that Benedict has made as to the authority of the permanent deacon. Permanent deacons will no longer preach with the same authority as priests or bishops. He also could allow priests to be married in the Latin rite by virtue of a motu proprio.

    Benedict established a personal ordinate for former Anglicans to maintain some degree of corporate identity and autonomy with regard to the bishops of the geographical dioceses of the Catholic Church and to preserve elements of their distinctive Anglican spiritual and liturgical tradition.

    Its precise nature is described in the apostolic constitution "Anglicanorum Coetibus" of Nov. 4, 2009 and in the complementary norms of the same date.

    The new structure is intended to integrate these groups into the life of the Roman Catholic Church in such a way as "to maintain the liturgical, spiritual and pastoral traditions of the Anglican Communion within the Catholic Church, as a precious gift nourishing the faith of the members of the Ordinariate and as a treasure to be shared".

    Anglican priests who are ordained Catholic priests in the new ordinate may use the Book of Common Prayer.

    Finally, changes in ecclesiastical law for the sake of unity have been done before Benedict by JPII in allowing married Anglican priests to be ordained in the Catholic church. We have one such priest in our diocese, with the number well over 100 in the U.S. alone.

    I proposed a revisiting of the issue of intercommunion in regards to Canon Law. OrgVir seemed to have no idea of the changes that are possible. Canon law changes, papal "motu proprios," rescinding of prior popes' delarations...all have been done by virtue of papal authority for centuries.

    Catholics such as OrgVir who are fixated on this papal statement or that are simply ignorant. They welcome JPII's restoration of the Tridentine Mass and Benedict's approval. I wonder how they view Paul VI who, for all practical purposes, abandoned it. I also wonder if they accept Vatican II's teachings or continue stuck in their obstinacy to the Holy Spirit's continuing development of Tradition.

  • Thanks! That means alot. Congratulations on 41 years!

    I did close comments on the other post as I was hoping to prevent what happened last time.

    As far as what type of Catholic does my blog attract, I can't answer that for sure. Some are liberal, some are traditional, some like Latin, some like English, and it seems all love and are passionate about being Catholic.

    I'm all for learning more about Catholicism and why as Catholics we do what we do. I'm also open to good healthy debate, which we sometimes miss the mark on. We need to keep in mind that sharing a link or an idea isn't just for those of us posting, but for everyone reading as well.

    • Ed Hahnenberg

      Jeremy...I see you are going with Disqus. Great change. Things one writes in replies needed that chance to "sleep on it" and edit later if need be. However, those who reply will have to register with Disqus, correct? Now for some ground rules for replying....Keep up the good work.

      • Yeah, I started installing this a while back, I like what it offers. I believe you don't have to register with officially with Disqus, but it will keep track of email addresses.

        • Ed Hahnenberg

          Good ground rules...I do believe you have to register with Disqus in order to edit one's own replies. If you don't want to edit, you can post with your email and a cyberspace name or your own.

  • Ed Hahnenberg

    Jeremy...I would say that your blog attracts the traditionalist Catholic more than any other. Your posting of Fr. Z's rants and Michael Voris are indicators of an ultra-conservative element in the Church.

    Respondents such as OrgVir and others are simply ignorant of mainstream Catholicism. They suffer from an elitist view of religion. They should step back and examine what their view of God is. How could an all-good God pick only Catholics as worthy of salvation? His love is infinite, and to put boundaries around it is ridiculous. As Scripture points out, He wills all men to be saved. Granted, the Catholic Church is the ordinary means for salvation. However, what Catholic Church are we talking about? A narrow pre-Vatican one?

    I would suggest that one must be both conservative and progressive as a Catholic. Issues such as the sacredness of life in all its stages should always be defended. On the other hand, promotion of ecumenism should also be advanced.

    My recommendation for your blog is to provide more of a variety of theological links. Voris, Fr. Z, etc. just feed the narrowness of your blog's overall focus.

    If you are sincere about healthy debate, establish ground rules and allow for editing of one's own replies.

    Thanks, Ed